FIVE THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU FEEL ANGRY

Anger is one of the emotions that is commonly faced by everyone in today's world. It has the potential of causing disaster and destroying relationships, friendships, and bonds. Anger is difficult to control.

Or is it?

Here, you'll discover the most effective way to get overcome your anger, or at least reduce it.

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Number 1: Think about the root of your anger.

When you're angry, there's a possibility of not knowing the reason behind your anger. At times it seems like you are angry for no reason but actually, there is a cause or fault behind every emotion including anger. And not knowing what is responsible for any emotion, can cause more damage to you or anyone around you.  

The root of your anger could be frustration, disappointment, disagreement, dissatisfaction, not meeting your goals or minor issues that can eradicate or take away your happy state of mind. 

Thinking of the root of your anger gives your brain enough time to switch from the angry mood to a curious mode which is better off and keeps you in a nonviolent or aggressive situation.

Number 2: Suppress your anger and convert it into energy.

Anger could be your way of feeling powerful and less vulnerable. Like a schoolboy who is bullied severally for being tender or timid, tends to get angry and challenge his bullies by setting up a fight after school due to his rage. Same as every other person, when we are furious, we can make stupid or unconscious decisions that we're likely to regret later.

However, the best thing you should do when you feel angry is to repress the emotion and channel the energy to something else. Let's say you're an employee who has worked so hard for a company without any promotions for a long time and has gotten angry for not being recognized or appreciated. Instead of badging into your boss's office to quit your job and losing your only source of income and access to taking care of your six kids at home, you can try channeling your energy to the work. Use the angry energy till it is completely diffused and you no longer feel the negative emotion.

Number 3: Write down exactly how you feel.

Just like a sixteen-year-old that has a diary, where he/she can talk and explain what's currently going on in his/her life. You can as well get a journal for your angry self. Put down every disgruntled feeling you have in the order of how your anger makes you feel, what caused your anger, and who you wish you could blame for it. By the time you're done, you'll notice the sudden relief you will experience. This will help you let go of words that are written and not said to hurt yourself or another person. You are angry maybe because you think that it's the only way you can communicate your feelings and be understood. But there are chances of creating a much more misunderstanding when you show anger.

Number 4: Express your anger.

Being angry is not a crime. It is healthy for anyone to feel angry. It's one of the coping mechanisms that is proven to work like magic. As much as being angry is destructive, it's ok to feel angry. But don't become a crazy maniac, try to express your anger positively. 

How can you do this?

Personally, when I'm angry, I choose to do more chores than normal. I use that angry energy to clean everywhere till I'm exhausted. I try to lose all my energy and engage myself with things that are contrary to the root of my anger. 

The root of my anger could be a person, so I try to avoid the person or give them a little space so that I can cool off, and this is because the root of your anger triggers more energy to the negative emotion and increases it.

You could try exercising, sleeping, punching a sack, or even taking a warm bath. 

Try to distract yourself and express your anger in other ways than focusing on the cause of your anger to avoid violence and destruction.

Number 5: Address the cause of your anger but do not blame anyone or anything.

Most times, facing your anger can be the best option. Fear can cause anger, so it is better to face it. Let's say you're about to give a presentation, and your assistant didn't prepare your speech or the project summary. You're angry because you'll mess up on stage and bring a bad name to your company. Now!! You don't have a choice other than to give it a shot and use that energy to give your best. 

Or perhaps, the fault of your anger is a person, try not to blame the person but rather address the person using the first person singular pronoun "I".

For instance, you want to complain about the taste of the food to the cook. Instead of saying: "Eew, this is disgusting, how can you serve me this rubbish, tastes like baby poop, your food is the worst I've ever tasted" you can try saying: "Uhmm, I am not a fan of this meal but I appreciate the effort, although I don't think it's made for me. I'll rather have something else." There's less reaction in the second statement and more tendency that the cook will not become angry about the complaint.

You should always try to refer back to yourself when you are angry. 

Let's say, you are furious about how another person spoke to you, you should use the first person singular pronoun and address the case; "You are very rude and you are disrespectful for speaking to me in that manner"... This statement can bring up more frustration from both sides and increase the rage in both parties, but when you say "I don't like it when you/someone speaks to me like that" it's less aggressive and more expressive.

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HOW TO EFFECTIVELY USE SOCIAL MEDIA FOR BUSINESS

Leveraging digital platforms is the best way to be in control of your brand, business, and organization.

            The digital space had made it easy for anyone to run their businesses without any discomfort. If you can effectively use your social media platforms.

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I will be sharing FOUR WAYS YOU CAN EFFECTIVELY USE SOCIAL MEDIA for better results.

Social media has brought about so many sources of a gold mine that you might be aware of and had even tried to incorporate.

             No doubt too, that the social media space is the best place to run your business, grow your brand, and build your foundation or organization.

           But this might be difficult to achieve if you do not know how to effectively manage your social media.

           Here, you'll discover insights on how you can manage a successful business, brand, and social media.

BUILD TRUST:

Probably you're wondering how this is related to managing your social media. But the truth is that trust is the most important aspect of running a business online because your target audience needs to understand what your brand is all about and also have a mind that they can trust you with meeting their needs.

RELIABILITY:

However, educating your target audience, showing your availability and willingness to serve them, and regularly preferring solutions will also go a long way in expanding your brand, business, and organization.

And this means; you must be capable of exposing what your target audience is doing wrong and how you as a brand will not only proffer solutions but as well be their source of a solution.

What your target audience needs is a shoulder to lean on and a portal to get the services and products that they need. Without any dissatisfaction.

ON-GOING DIALOGUE:

Humanizing your organization helps to communicate with your customers better:

1. It helps them give feedback, ask questions and tell their issues with the organization's products.

2. It enables you to build customer relationships.

3. It showcases the people behind the brand; the company features its employees through digital platforms, and this helps to promote the organization.

You cannot control people's opinion on products, but you can direct the information like never before.

           With the help of digital platforms; A company can now know how they are perceived by its prior audience and share perspectives whenever they please. This helps avoid decreasing the company's revenue.

           When your brand, business, or organization gives a voice to its audience, it as well advertises its expertise.

          It gives a different view of your organization and this helps avoid competition. 

Also, make your brand stand out with a casual tone, and use colorful infographics and audio videos. Digital platforms are the best way you can reach out to your target audience. 

Don't just watch...... Pursue, because social media is an aid to converting your audience to customers.

Communicating effectively on your digital platforms will be the best vehicle for you (brand, business, and organization) to drive leads and traffic, effortlessly.

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By Sonia Chukwunonye

HOW TO SUCCESSFULLY IMPROVE YOUR ORGANIZATION

The question of what determines the success of a foundation is a topic of long-standing debate....

       However, many foundations and organizations has set aside key performance indicators which includes; the financial measures such as the sales growth and earnings per share (EPS) and the growth in addition to non-financial measures such as loyalty to product and service quality. Yet, as we'll see, these have only a loose connection to the objective of value.

       Many foundations often rely on statistics that are neither persistent nor predictive, but then, a general survey has come to the conclusive measure of the corporate performances in foundations and had reported that success can be measured by teamwork ( how well the foundation works hand in hand with it's members ).

       Also, many great authors and respected leaders has stated the fact that Love is "the secret to life and sustainability". Great men like Joel Manby (Love Works) who had advocated for Love in the work context through his writing and as well exposed that a culture of Love corresponded to increased level of job satisfaction,  teamwork and the unlimited growth and development of foundations.

       As we all know, Love is not discussed in organizations and foundations, they let their actions, policies, products and services do the talking. Love is also promoted in foundations through  Neutrality, Impartiality, Humanity, Independence, Unity,  Universality and the voluntary service of members.

        In fact, Love isn't as absent from organizations and foundations as we might think rather it is the pillar that holds it firmly. Moreover foundations that are dedicated to the works that improves the quality of life for many individuals, participate in humanitarian activities and are built on humanitarian standards to help make a difference in the community, state and beyond. And this is aimed at promoting Humanity.

       On the other hand, foundations that are built with lack of humanitarian standards are incomparable to those foundations that are built on Love, because where there is Love, there is integrity, humility and generosity, and these qualities always leads to the sustainability of the foundation, it's productivity and general effectiveness.

      Love is a much needed antidote to many challenges facing our communities.